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How WordPress Changed My Life

Life can be hard or werk can get on the correct road. Some of us do that. Some get the chance, but those who do don’t always take the challenges.

I was reading this blog and it shows me I didn’t do everything I should have done. I have been through some hard times, but give up when I can’t get where I want to. I have learned in the last decade that sometimes we need to adjust, change roads or make a turn. Whatever we do we need to adjust to life as it is and deal with it. Please read the blog blow it will inspire you.

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Sometimes Family Cannot Live Together Because They Will Never Agree

We all have family members that are the nice ones, the grumpy ones, the neat ones, and the little obsessive ones; but what if you are a positive one with the negative ones. This can cause problems through out life if no common ground is found. There is a time to agree and a time to disagree.

Showing Favoritism Among the Kids

Believe it or not, all parents have a favorite child. It happened in my family and I was not the favorite. It is like liking Pepsi over Coke or Coke over Pepsi. They are both colas, taste similar, but one is better than the other to everyone.

Dragon QuestIt is understanding that parents can favor on child over another, especially mothers favoring daughters and fathers favoring sons, although giving privileges to one and none to another makes them feel rejected. Sometimes you cannot treat your children exactly the same. These days there are a lot of children born with limitations or handicaps. Everyone has different interest as they grow up too. I know I liked playing outside when I was very young, but when I got to my teens I loved video games. The Nintendo came out and it made my mind work. I love Role Playing Games (RPG). My favorite from the NES was Dragon Warrior Series. My mother would always yell at me about always being on my Nintendo, which I was not, and not going outside. When I did go outside and play with my sister and her friend, which today is her husband, he would always end up being a jerk and have to be the dominating man. Today I realize I did not like that because I saw myself as the man of the house and he should be submissive to me. Even back then I developed in my mind if you cannot win just walk away.

Whenever there was chores to do I always got them. Chores like taking out the garbage, bringing in wood, mowing the lawn, and even cooking dinner I always did them and never got any benefits from it. My sister on the other hand did not have any chores she had responsibilities. She had like a dozen pets cats, dog, birds, fish, hermit crabs, lizards, rabbits and more. Whenever I complained that my sister did not have any chores that I did “everything” my mother always said, “Yes she does!”. I told her, “They are not chores they are responsibilities. If you think they are both the same I am going to give you the definitions.

Chore–   a small or odd job; routine task, the everyday work around a house or farm

Responsible involving accountability or responsibilityas in having the power to  control or manage:, reliable or dependable, as in meeting debts, conducting businessdealings, etc.

Now according to the definitions chores are not as significant as responsibility. Not that is insignificant to do your chores everyday they teach you discipline and commitment to get things done, but a responsibility, like having pets, is similar to having kids. You come home from work tired and worn out there are two things you need to do, wash the dishes and feed the kids, which on would you do? If you said feed the kids that is being responsible. Doing the dishes is an everyday chore that we all have. It can be put off till the next day if needed. Although a responsibility cannot be put off. Just like for kids and doing their homework. They need to learn when they are young what is more important, running the trash out for dad or study for that History test. It took me until high school to realize that education was far more important than chores. I have my Principal and Pastor from high school to thank for that. When I graduated and went to college I had to cram for prioritizing in life. It was hard with college, work, and home. I did not graduate from college back then. I went back to college in 2010 and graduated in 2012 from AIU. I wish I learned how to prioritize when I was a child.

Try to Treat Your Children Equal

Although there will be favoritism, parents can favor both children in different ways. Some kids need personal time and other kids like a lot of attention. There are also kids who want to go out with there friends after school. Parents could allow them to do this as long as after dinner they got on their homework and got it done. This is a compromise. If the child does not comply then it is their fault and have to learn they need to accept responsibility for their choices and actions. If they will not get their homework done then they need to get on it after school or maybe be able to go play for an hour. If the kid wants to cry about it they need to be explained to why their privilege is being limited or taken away. Even if they do not fully conceive it it may sink in eventually. If you do not work with them then they may go against you. They will learn to deceive you and get away with what they want to. I know this because I did it as a child. I got grounded and told not to play my video games. I figured out a way to put everything back the way it was and when my parents came home. Also my game systems were where the wood burner was so if they got home before I got off I always used the excuse I was taken care of the fire. They never found out to this day. I have gotten away with a lot as a child and got busted on a lot too. I just believe with everything there is a compromise. It is up to you as the parent to develop that. Always talk, listen, give-up, and give on both sides. I can go on and on. If you want any advice or have a question just comment below. I hope more families are getting along in harmony than families who cannot agree what to watch on TV.

The most important thing in the world is family and love.

-John Wooden

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References

Dictionary.com. (2017). the definition of chore. [online] Available at: http://www.dictionary.com/browse/chore?s=t [Accessed 19 Aug. 2017].

Dictionary.com. (2017). the definition of responsible. [online] Available at: http://www.dictionary.com/browse/responsible [Accessed 19 Aug. 2017].

 

I Believe I Can Fly! Can You?

When Space Jam came to the theaters in 1996 in went to the theaters with some friends to see it. I really enjoyed the movie, but what inspired me was the song, I Believe I Can Fly. For the first time I felt like I could do anything I wanted as long as I put my mind to it.

Monsters Can Come In Our Life

Did you ever have a goal to accomplish and all of a sudden everything goes wrong. It makes me think of the “monster under the bed” that always steals your socks. Well if things go wrong do not let it get you down, let it push you to try harder and learn to do greater.

When I was trying to start a business I had problems keeping thing organized, scheduled, prioritized, and getting it done. I learned it is always better to write things down and schedule events on your calendar. I use Google for everything. I have my personal and business scheduled with notifications as far as a week, even some a month ahead. When I started to get more organized the monsters seemed to go away. I took control!

Growth With Optimism, Decline With Negativity

We all need to be in a positive environment. The more positivity you are around the more you will grow. If we are in a negative environment then we will decline. We want to grow and be strong because then our soul will fly.

I am going tell you in two situations I have been in my life. I am going to start with the good one first.

Positive Environment

It was about eleven years ago I got a job at a casual dinning restaurant. I had a lot of experience so I applied for manager. The General Manager and the Area Manager interviewed me and I was hired. There was one condition though. I would not be hired on as a manager, but I would be trained to be a manager in the future. When I walked in that was what I wanted at least so I took it. They even paid me a dollar an hour more than a regular hire. I was there for two years and I was promoted to management. I was in training for about six months until I was officially promoted. Now there is a down side. Going into my fourth year they opened a new restaurant and my General Manager was transferred to that restaurant. The Assistant Manager was promoted to General Manager. I never did get along with her well and I did not think she wanted me as manager. She scheduled me for opening, which I did not do for almost a year. I did not do well. I didn’t get to the bank on time, scheduled breaks late, and had employees complaining because I did not help them open. I got demoted a few weeks later and decided to move on. I applied for a job that a friend of mine had. It wasn’t the best job, but a great paycheck. I really liked the job and did not want to leave, but there are signs in life that something comes to an end. That is what I believe happened. I would do it again in a heart beat.

Negative Enviroment

This is going to be hard cause it has been growing for a long time. It was seven years ago I started a job working nights. That was not bad for me, it actually helped. It was bad because at that time I was living with my mother and step-father. When I was hired I told them what my shift was and that I had to sleep during the day. They accepted it, but it didn’t go well. I was also attending college online. I would do a discussion before work and one on last break. This helped because I had to do three discussions a week. It freed a little time to do research on my days off.

When I was at home they talked way too much and had the TV blaring. I tried being back in my room but I could still hear them. I finally decided to pop in my ear phones, crank them up and put my “head into the books”.  It worked! It would get them a little upset because when my mother would be calling for dinner I did not hear her. I told her multiple times come up to me and tap me or wave to get my attention. She could not understand why I had the earphones in. I told her, “Either you two keep quiet and keep the TV down or I wear my earphones.” Things got worse over the years. My step-dad did the chores before I was able to. I would get up around 3 pm and he got home around 3:15 pm. He would come in and take out the trash and the garbage or go get wood in for the heat, and I did not notice it because I was studying and just got up. I had my studies in one hand and coffee in another. When he got back he would say, “I did all your chores for you.” or “Since you wouldn’t do it I did.” or “Well somebody had to get it done.”. I liked the first one to begin with until he became persistent. He then began to complain why I never did anything. Eventually about three or four years ago I stopped doing anything unless I was asked. I felt like I was no longer needed or wanted. When I lost my job it got worse because they would complain about me not being able to pay my bills. It was none of their business. The thought of suicide even crossed my mind. I was in therapy for two years until this week which was my last session. Losing my job, my business, and no support from family pushed me over the edge. Today I am independent, employed, have a Jeep Cherokee, and a nice apartment. I may have fallen big time a few years ago, but I say I gained a few steps. We all need to learn from our mistakes and from the mistakes of others.

Closure

If you are wondering where I am going with this I will tell you. There are good and bad times in all our lives, but we cannot give up. We must all have faith. If you believe in what you want and you believe it is meant for you then in time you will achieve it. I may not have my business now, but I do believe one day I will have what God intends me to have to fly.

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All children learn about life. I know life can be hard growing up. One issue I had is I always got bailed out by my mother or my sister. When I hit my teen years I learned I needed to figure things out to be proud of it. I can thank my pastor for that.

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I played basketball, soccer, and baseball when I was in school. I had so many fails, but I got up and learned how to do better. I learned myself by improving what I failed at and I improved with others by listening to advice. I definitely learned that one person is never always right. Listen to people around you and then make your own decision. This is part of a child’s independence from their parents. We do make bad decisions, but we always have our parents to go back to to talk to about our mistakes allowing us to improve in life.

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