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Introduction I have been looking back on my life a lot in the past year. I have seen the good things I have done and the bad things as well. Some decisions I made decades ago would not change even …
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We all have a complicated life. Some of us have problems with finances, some of us with friends, some of us with the lost of a loved one, and some have problems with peers and parents growing up. I am going to focus on the latter. I am focusing on a problem I have had since I was seven. It has been difficult for me to comprehend because the Bible says,
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: 32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
The main point is “Be kind on to another”. When people can never be kind it is hard to put away the bitterness.
I have always believed childhood should be a happy time. A time to learn, to grow up, to experience new things all the time, but now I look back a believe that childhood is a rough hard road that we need to battle. We grow strength from learning from our challenges, unfairness, and the neglect we had as a child. When we grow up we are responsible for ourselves and have full control.
There are reasons I believe this. One of the main ones is because of all the troubles I had in school. I was always harassed in elementary school. My step-father, which I will get to soon, did not believe me, my mother did although. When I was in public school my sister saw kids pushing me around, calling me names, and even trying to pick a fight.
When I was in the second grade I begged my mother to take me out of public school. She did and put me into a Christian school. I made a few friends there, which are still friends today, but there were more jerks then nice people. I still got picked on, but the teachers and the principal did something about it. I even got into a couple fights my four years there. One was when we were on our ski trip. When the principal found out he pulled the guy off the slopes and sat him in the ski resort. The principal also suspended him. My friend left that school and went to a different Christian school so I went with them.
This is the school I graduated from and the church I go to today. Here I had more friends, but had some religious differences. There were a few people I wish were never there, but we cannot have a day go the way we want it to all the time. Some things happen for a reason, because God has a purpose for it. One thing I have learned from what I put up with through school is always be kind to people around you. You may never know if a person is having a good day or bad day, lost a loved one or expecting a newborn, or has a lot of stress on their mind or is the happiest person on earth. Keep your mind open because you may be there to save a person or they are there to save you.
Now earlier I mentioned about my step-father not believing me on the problems I had in school. Well it did not stop there. I do not always believe a person at first, but when it gets consistent then I get curious if it is true or not. That has never been my step-dad.
When I wanted to go out to eat on Sunday after church I knew I had to bother my mother. If I even mentioned it to my step-father he would not take us out. Then I wondered if he did not take us because we asked to go. I thought he did not like us asking to go out to eat. Now I believe it was because it was not his idea. Looking back in life with my step-father he was and is a self-centered, egotistical, selfish, jerk. My whole life I have never liked people like this. The last decade it has been a lot worse. As of New Year’s Day I have had enough! I have cut him off as my step-father, I am no longer talking to him, nor offering any help. It is over 30 years of he is always right and everyone else is always wrong. What happened that Sunday is not really significant. I will say he was saying I was wrong and I had non-argumentative proof that I was right. When a person cannot admit they are wrong sincerely they are guilty of pride and arrogance.
“The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.”
You may wonder why I would cut him out of my life. Well it is not as simple as going out to eat after church. He has always been negative. I have been ambitious since I was in high school. Words affect you especially if you hear them your entire life. When all you hear are negative word from a person they make you think negative. Although I have always had a drive to be someone better than him, better than me. I always want to improve myself one way or another. So it has always been like an ongoing fight that no one ever wins. It is no longer worth being near such a negative person that it holds my life, my mind back so much I cannot believe in myself. Now I am focusing entirely on myself. It may sound selfish, but I have given so much of my life away it is time to live. It may not stay constant. Once I am living maybe things will settle, but until then it is time to start my life.
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(“PROVERBS 8:13 KJV “The Fear Of The LORD [Is] To Hate Evil: Pride, And Arrogancy, And The Evil Way, And The Froward Mouth, Do I Hate.””)
All children learn about life. I know life can be hard growing up. One issue I had is I always got bailed out by my mother or my sister. When I hit my teen years I learned I needed to figure things out to be proud of it. I can thank my pastor for that.
I played basketball, soccer, and baseball when I was in school. I had so many fails, but I got up and learned how to do better. I learned myself by improving what I failed at and I improved with others by listening to advice. I definitely learned that one person is never always right. Listen to people around you and then make your own decision. This is part of a child’s independence from their parents. We do make bad decisions, but we always have our parents to go back to to talk to about our mistakes allowing us to improve in life.
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I know we all have hard times in life and we want to blame it on someone other than ourselves. There are some people that the only person they can blame is theirself. Although we should not hold a grudge on anyone especially ourselves. We need to forgive. It does take time, space, and acceptance; but once you can forgive you will have peace. I have shared this video on my music page on my blog, but I want people to see it even more. This song has helped me through life, has helped me accept the hard times as a trial of God, and has lead me in the direction of Salvation of Jesus Christ. I will explain this all to you, but if you wish listen to the song, turn of any noise, put away any distractions even your smartphone unless you are reading my blog from it, and listen not with your ears, but with your heart.
When I was not even a teenager I was the one the kids picked one, beat up, and threatened in school. The only way my mother could see to stop it was take me out of public school and place me in a Christian (Baptist) school. I had no idea what religion was like, I was about to learn.
When I was in school I learned the Bible everyday and had chapel on Fridays. My fifth grade teacher talked to me about Christ and Heaven. She told me He came here over 2000 years ago to die on the cross and rise again the third day to cleanse us of our sins. She also told me we have to have faith and be saved in Him to go to Heaven. Now I was a little unsure back then because before then I had no idea of Heaven or Hell. I also wondered if I sinned again did I need to get saved again. For example a Christian is crossing the road and then sees headlights of an eighteen wheeler coming at the and says a “bad word” do they go to Heaven or Hell. I did learn that once you are saved you are saved unless you reject God and tell Him you no longer want your Salvation. Now you may be wondering how I got to this. This was the time I first heard this song, “The Heart of the Matter”.
I loved the music of the Eagles and when I found a CD of Don Henley’s I had to have it. My mom bought it for me and when I heard the song it took my breath away. It froze me and had my full attention. When I heard these lyrics is when the tears started to flow and still do, “And the struggles we went through, How I lost me and you lost you, What are these voices outside loves open door, Make us throw of our contentment, and beg for something more.” Here is where my eyes are tearing, “I’m learning to live without you now, but I miss you sometimes, the more I know the less I understand all the things I thought I knew I am learning again, I’ve been try to get down to the heart of the matter but my will gets weak and my thought seem to scatter, so I think it’s about forgiveness, forgiveness even if I don’t love you anymore.”
This just reinforced what my teacher was talking to me about when it came to Salvation. The “struggles we went through” for example. We all go through struggles everyday and I was going through a lot at the time. They are trials given to us by God to test us. Also ‘I lost me and you lost you” without Jesus Christ as Savior we are lost. The “voices outside loves open door”‘ is temptation, deception, sin and “something more” is Salvation. We do learn to live with God and we could do that for a long time, but He will keep sending us His Word and never give up. Then when I did “get down to the heart of the matter, my will got weak, and my thought did scatter, so i sought forgiveness, forgiveness” and I was saved in Jesus Christ and baptized at the Door of Fellowship in Williamsport, PA. I was born again. If you want to be saved just say a prayer to God and as for forgiveness of your sins, let Him know you are now dedicated to Him, ask him to show you the way to His path, and ask him to cleanse you. If you want to read the Sinners Prayer read Psalms 51.
This is a very peaceful song. When I have a bad day or tension between family or co-workers I listen to this song. It gives me peace. I don’t know why, but it soothes me like a hurricane becoming blue sky and still water. We all need peace for a few minutes in a day. This is what does it for me. Even when I am at work I stop and listen. I have pulled over before to listen. I believe this song was a gift from God to us. It is sad that love isn’t always simple. Sometimes relationships end and it is no one’s fault. Everything happens for a reason and the reason of this song is for peace in the heart. I hope you like this song as much as I do.
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Altrogge, S., Nation, P., Patterson, C., Murray, D. and McDaniel, D. (2018). Psalm 51 – NIV Bible – Have mercy on me, O God, according to your…. [online] Bible Study Tools. Available at: https://www.biblestudytools.com/psalms/51.html [Accessed 20 Jul. 2018].
